long distance affair, as they say, barely works. one of the problems you have is a long distance relationship. however that's not as difficult to handle as the another point about your story: the caste factor which you as well know, the parents won't allow.
if things haven't been working well so far between you guys then it's all because you haven't discussed about it with your parents. to make things clearer first you need to act on the more difficult part i.e to try and convince the parents if they could get along on your side and support both of you being together. there's no need to keep this matter a secret from your families if you two are seriously in love.
unless you have the blessings of the elders and family i'm sure things won't work.
go ahead with valid and strong reasons. be prepared with the answers to such questions as why would a parent give their daughter to you or what makes you stand out of the crowd and make you special that you deserve to get the girl in the sight of her parents, etc.
although in conservative families this community or caste things plays a great role and i also agree that is a tough deal to handle but at the same time that is not impossible. thousands of people have broken this barrier and have been together for the rest of their lives. it's your test about how you convince the family.
the girl is doing a wise thing by not allowing you to get too close, but at the same time she doesn't even want to lose you. this is making it evident that she loves you but at the same time she also respect her family. you should also do the same. so if you really love her and want to add her name with yours to eternity then you should be man enough to go talk and settle the family disagreements for once and for all.
things may not seem to go in the desired direction at first but it's up to you how you make attempts. stay positive at all times. try again and again and make sure not to show disrespect to the elders. and remember eloping like cowards is the worst idea ever. I'm sure that stage will not come into play as you will be able to make things work much before.
God forbid, if things still don't work out then please don't take it as the final defeat of life. many people lose a lot of important things but the happy memories always stay with you. you can move ahead with your lives and let her go.
remember time is the best ointment to any wound on heart.
if things haven't been working well so far between you guys then it's all because you haven't discussed about it with your parents. to make things clearer first you need to act on the more difficult part i.e to try and convince the parents if they could get along on your side and support both of you being together. there's no need to keep this matter a secret from your families if you two are seriously in love.
unless you have the blessings of the elders and family i'm sure things won't work.
go ahead with valid and strong reasons. be prepared with the answers to such questions as why would a parent give their daughter to you or what makes you stand out of the crowd and make you special that you deserve to get the girl in the sight of her parents, etc.
although in conservative families this community or caste things plays a great role and i also agree that is a tough deal to handle but at the same time that is not impossible. thousands of people have broken this barrier and have been together for the rest of their lives. it's your test about how you convince the family.
the girl is doing a wise thing by not allowing you to get too close, but at the same time she doesn't even want to lose you. this is making it evident that she loves you but at the same time she also respect her family. you should also do the same. so if you really love her and want to add her name with yours to eternity then you should be man enough to go talk and settle the family disagreements for once and for all.
things may not seem to go in the desired direction at first but it's up to you how you make attempts. stay positive at all times. try again and again and make sure not to show disrespect to the elders. and remember eloping like cowards is the worst idea ever. I'm sure that stage will not come into play as you will be able to make things work much before.
God forbid, if things still don't work out then please don't take it as the final defeat of life. many people lose a lot of important things but the happy memories always stay with you. you can move ahead with your lives and let her go.
remember time is the best ointment to any wound on heart.