Hi Shelly,
It is a very good query you have posted. I did share my views and thoughts on the same topic with my other closest friends too, when i was in dilemma. Rather than, thinking of ourself being submissive or not, we do rethink and behave the ways, which makes/gives us extreme pleasure. The reason why i do say like this is, from my other friends experiences and my own experience, as like every man, every woman's needs, excitements are different. And treatments in bed are completely different. But, in your question, i even noticed that, initiation of love making from us, towards husband is not so much considered as dominant or so. I feel it is misunderstood by your husband. Because, initiation is just to show our readiness and welcoming or inviting act. You can clear that misunderstanding from his mind. In my case, if I am initiating, I get more aggressive response and long hour love-making for that day/night. And one more thing, shelly, I do request you to consider my advice, please never discuss or communicate sex in words to our husband in bed. That whole conversation leads for giving room to pay suspicious looks on us. ( I too had undergone this situation, when I was overly excited by watching some porn, when my husband was away for few nights). I feel that makes them (our husband) to make uncomfortable by asking/talking in words. I do prefer in actions, showing my readiness and willingness to have the same game in different ways. I do know, few males love aggressive and dominant females in bed. But not always with the same manner or ways. From my close friends sayings and my own experiences, being submissive in bed gives more pleasure.
It is a very good query you have posted. I did share my views and thoughts on the same topic with my other closest friends too, when i was in dilemma. Rather than, thinking of ourself being submissive or not, we do rethink and behave the ways, which makes/gives us extreme pleasure. The reason why i do say like this is, from my other friends experiences and my own experience, as like every man, every woman's needs, excitements are different. And treatments in bed are completely different. But, in your question, i even noticed that, initiation of love making from us, towards husband is not so much considered as dominant or so. I feel it is misunderstood by your husband. Because, initiation is just to show our readiness and welcoming or inviting act. You can clear that misunderstanding from his mind. In my case, if I am initiating, I get more aggressive response and long hour love-making for that day/night. And one more thing, shelly, I do request you to consider my advice, please never discuss or communicate sex in words to our husband in bed. That whole conversation leads for giving room to pay suspicious looks on us. ( I too had undergone this situation, when I was overly excited by watching some porn, when my husband was away for few nights). I feel that makes them (our husband) to make uncomfortable by asking/talking in words. I do prefer in actions, showing my readiness and willingness to have the same game in different ways. I do know, few males love aggressive and dominant females in bed. But not always with the same manner or ways. From my close friends sayings and my own experiences, being submissive in bed gives more pleasure.
